The Fourth Step Inventory form is a reflective tool designed to help individuals identify both their character flaws and positive traits, as outlined in the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book. This form encourages users to engage in a moral inventory, promoting self-awareness and personal growth. By filling out this form, you can begin a journey toward understanding your values and behaviors, paving the way for meaningful change. Start your process by clicking the button below.
The Fourth Step Inventory form serves as a vital tool for individuals seeking to understand their character and behaviors in the context of recovery. Rooted in the principles outlined in the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book, this form encourages users to reflect on both their strengths and weaknesses. It emphasizes the importance of honesty, urging individuals to be fair to themselves while identifying personal flaws and assets. This self-inventory is not merely an exercise in self-criticism; rather, it is a means to recognize the values that guide one’s life and to assess how well those values align with current behaviors. The worksheets provide a checklist of potential character defects, but users are encouraged to personalize their reflections by adding their unique traits. This process is designed to be constructive, allowing individuals to prioritize the flaws that most significantly impact their lives. By focusing on a manageable number of defects, users can engage more deeply with their self-discovery journey. Ultimately, the Fourth Step Inventory form aims to foster growth and understanding, paving the way for meaningful change in one’s life.
FOURTH STEP INVENTORY
These Fourth Step worksheets use the wording from Alcoholics Anonymous (the Big Book) pages 63-71. Text in italics is quoted from the Big Book. When the word “optional” is used in the worksheets, it means that the Big Book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing anything down. However, many people who have used these worksheets found it helpful to write down their flaws and their specific defects.
Remember, these worksheets are meant to be helpful, but do not feel restricted by them.
You can get the latest version of these worksheets and other AA materials at www.royy.com.
These worksheets are not officially produced or approved by Alcoholics Anonymous. They have been circulating unofficially
among AA members for at least 50 years in various versions. Their origin is unknown to the producer of this version.
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HELPFUL HINTS
PREPARATION: before you start this written Fourth Step, read pages 63-71 in the Big Book and the Fourth Step in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.
NOTE:
1.This inventory is not an exercise in beating yourself up. Be scrupulously honest but be fair to yourself. Inventory your strengths as well as your defects.
2.The following checklist merely suggests what some people consider flaws. You must decide how they fit with your own moral code. Do not be limited by this list--add your other flaws and assets. It is in this Fourth Step that you begin to discover your values– what you consider right and wrong,
functional and dysfunctional behavior–and how you live up to your standards.
3.This inventory is about who you are now, not who you were when you were drinking and taking drugs. Be careful, however, not to blame all past bad behavior on drinking and drugs if the seed of that bad behavior still exists in you.
4.Don't be discouraged when your character defects are not immediately lifted after you
have completed your 5th Step--that is the work of the 6th, 7th and 10th Steps.
5.Prioritize! Spend most of your time on
the 20% of your flaws that cause 80% of the trouble in your life. You can initially check off as many flaws as you want on the checklist but then prioritize to the 12 that cause the most trouble. If you list more
than 12 flaws, you are probably beating yourself up! You must check at lease twice as many assets as you check flaws or you really are beating yourself up.
INTO ACTION: On the following list, check all of your defects and all of your assets. This is an inventory of both bad and good characteristics. Then discuss your defects (with your best example of each) on the Review of Flaws form.
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Glossary of Words Used in Steps Four and Five
Moral Inventory
..A list of personality defects, violations of moral
principles, defects in character, maladjustments,
and dysfunctional behavior.
Character
Moral vigor or firmness, especially as acquired
through self-discipline.
Defect
Lack of something necessary for completeness; flaw;
weakness, fault; same as Shortcoming.
Dishonest
The act or practice of telling a lie, or of cheating,
deceiving, stealing, etc.
Exact
Precise, detailed.
Fault
Something done wrongly, an error or mistake.
Fear
Painful emotion marked by alarm, dread, anxiety,
agitation, uneasiness, apprehension, etc.
Frightened
A temporary or continual state of Fear. Anxious.
Inconsiderate
Without thought or consideration of others.
Nature
The essential characteristic of a thing.
Self-centered
Occupying or concerned only with one’s own affairs
(same as Selfish).
Self-seeker
A person who seeks only or mainly to further his
own interests.
Selfish
Too much concerned with one’s own welfare or
interests and having little or no concern for others
(same as self-centered).
Shortcoming
Falling short of what is expected or required (same
as Defect).
Wrong
Immoral, improper; not suitable or appropriate.
Footnotes to the list on following page:
1Dr. Bob’s Fourth Step List; in “He Sold Himself Short,” (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 292)
2 Seven Deadly Sins (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 48)
3Clarence Snyder’s Fourth Step List (one of the original 40 members of AA, see “Home Brewmeister,” Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 297-303)
4 Boy Scout Law, Robert Binkey's The Official Boy Scout Handbook (10th edition, 1990)(so?
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4 Character Defect
Opposite Asset 4
aggressive, belligerent
good-natured, gentle
angry2
forgiving, calm, generous
apathetic
interested, concerned, alert
apprehensive, afraid
calm, courageous
argumentative, quarrelsome
agreeable
arrogant, insolent
unassuming, humble
attacking, critical
fair, self-restrained
avoidant
faces problems and acts
blocking
honest, intuitive
boastful
modest, humble
careless1
careful, painstaking, concerned
cheating
honest
competitive (socially)
cooperative
compulsive
free
conceited1,self-important
humble, modest
contradictory, oppositional|
reasonable, agreeable
contrary, intractable, pigheaded
reasonable
controlling
lets go, esp. of other's lives
cowardly
brave 4
critical 3
non-judgmental, praising, tolerant,
cynical
open-minded
deceitful
guileless, honest
defensive
open to criticism
defiant, contemptuous
respectful
denying
honest, accepting
dependent
accepts help but is self-reliant
depressed, morose|
hopeful, optimistic, cheerful 4
dirty, poor hygiene
clean 4
dishonest3
disloyal, treacherous
faithful, loyal 4
disobedient
obedient 4
disrespectful, insolent
respectful, reverent 4
enabling
setting boundaries, tough love
envying2,3
empathetic, generous, admiring
evasive, deceitful
candid, straightforward
exaggerating
honest, realistic
faithless, disloyal
reliable, faithful
falsely modest
honest, has self-esteem
falsely prideful2,3
fantasizing, unrealistic
practical, realistic
fearful3
confidant, courageous
Checklist of Flaws and Assets
forgetful
responsible
gluttonous2, excessive
moderate
gossiping3
closed-mouth, kind, praising
greedy 2,3
moderate, generous, sharing
hateful3
forgiving, loving, concerned for others
hypersensitive
tolerant, doesn't personalize
ill-tempered1, bitchy
good-tempered, calm
impatient3
patient
impulsive, reckless|
consistent, considered actions
inconsiderate
thoughtful, considerate
indecisive, timid
firm, decisive
indifferent, apathetic, aloof
caring
inflexible, stubborn
open-minded, flexible
insecure, anxious
self-confident, secure
insincere3, hypocritical
sincere, honest
intolerant1
tolerant, understanding, patient
irresponsible, reckless
isolating, solitary
sociable, outgoing
jealous1,3
trusting, generous, admiring
judgmental
broadminded, tolerant
justifying (own actions)
honest, frank, candid
lack of purpose
purposeful
lazy, indolent
industrious, conscientious
loud
tasteful, quiet
lustful2
healthy sexuality
lying3
manipulative
candid, honest, non-controlling
masked, closed
honest, open, candid
nagging
supportive
narrow minded
open minded
obscene, crude
modest, courteous
over emotional
emotionally stable
perfectionistic
realistic goals
pessimistic|
realistic, hopeful, optimistic, trusting
possessive
generous
prejudiced
procrastinates3
disciplined, acts promptly
projecting (negative)
clear sighted, optimistic
rationalizing
candid, honest
resentful1,3,
bitter, hateful
forgiving
resisting growing
willing to grow
rude, discourteous
polite, courteous 4
sarcastic1
praising, tolerant
self-important3
self-centered
caring of others
self-destructive, self-defeating
self-fulfilling
self-hating
self-accepting, loving
self-justifying3
admitting wrongs, humble
self-pitying3
grateful, realistic, accepting
self-righteous
humble, understanding
self-seeking3
selfless, concerned for others
selfish1,3
altruistic, concerned with others
shy
outgoing
slothful (lazy)2,3
industrious, taking action
spiteful, malicious
stealing
stubborn
open-minded, willing
sullen
cheerful
superior, grandiose, pretentious
humble
superstitious
realistic, no magical thinking
suspicious
trusting
tense
calm, serene
thinking negatively3
being positive
treacherous
trustworthy
undisciplined, self-indulgent
disciplined
unfair
fair
unfriendly, hostile, bitchy
friendly4
ungrateful
thankful, grateful
unkind, mean, malicious, spiteful
kind 4
unsupportive of others
untrustworthy, unreliable, dishonest|
trustworthy 4
useless, destructive
helpful 4
vain
vindictive
violent
gentle
vulgar3
polite
wasteful
thrifty 4
willful
accepting of the inevitable
withdrawn
wordy, verbose
frank, to the point, succinct
Other dysfunctional ways of acting, feeling or thinking which cause others or me pain (specify in the following Review of Flaws).
See source footnotes on page 2.
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Instructions for Completion
REVIEW OF FLAWS
First, we searched out the flaws in our make-up which caused our failure.
(optional)
FLAW
Give your best example of this specific flaw in your life.
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2
3
4
5
6
7
8
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12
If you must list additional flaws do so below. Do not beat yourself up.
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RESENTMENTS
Do not be restricted by this list. It is just to help you get started. List your resentments on the next pages.
PEOPLE
In-Laws
Father
Judges
Mother
Lawyers
Boy Friends/Lovers
Life-long Friends
Brothers
Parole Officers
Sisters
Police
Sponsors
Probation Officers
Employers
School Friends
A.A. Friends
Teachers
Acquaintances
Uncles
Aunts
Wives
Best Friends
INSTITUTIONS
C.A. Friends
Authority
Childhood Friends
Bible
Clergy
Child Protection
Co-Workers
Church
Cousins
Correctional System
Creditors
Education System
Doctors
Government
Employees
Law
Girl Friends
Marriage
Husbands
Health/Mental Health System
Nationality
Philosophy
Races
Religion
Society
PRINCIPLES
Adultery
Death
God-Deity
Golden Rule
Heaven
Hell
Homophobia
Jesus Christ
Life After Death
Original Sin
Retribution
Satan
Seven Deadly Sins
Sin
Ten Commandments
MORE from your experience!
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Step Four Resentments Checklist Column 4*
“Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?”
SELFISH
•Not seeing others point of view, problems or needs
•Wanting things my way
•Wanting special treatment
•Wanting others to meet my needs– dependence
•Wanting what others have
•Wanting to control–dominance
•Thinking I'm better–grandiosity
•Wanting to be the best
•Thinking others are jealous
•Wanting others to be like me
•Being miserly, possessive
•Wanting more than my share
•Reacting from self loathing, self righteousness
•Too concerned about me
•Not trying to be a friend
•Wanting to look good or be liked
•Concerned only with my needs
DISHONEST
•Not seeing or admitting where I was at fault
•Having a superior attitude–thinking I'm better
•Blaming others for my problems
•Not admitting I've done the same thing
•Not expressing feelings or ideas
•Not being clear about motives
•Lying, cheating, stealing
•Hiding reality–not facing facts
•Stubbornly holding on to inaccurate beliefs
•Breaking rules
•Lying to myself
•Exaggerating, minimalizing
•Setting myself up to be “wronged”
•Expecting others to be what they are not
•Being perfectionistic
SELF SEEKING
•Manipulating others to do my will
•Putting others down internally or externally to build me up
•Engaging in character assassination
•Acting superior
•Acting to fill a void
•Engaging in gluttony or lusting at the expense of another person
•Ignoring others’ needs
•Trying to control others
•Getting revenge when I don't get what I want
•Holding a resentment
•Acting to make me feel good
FRIGHTENED (OF)
•Peoples' opinions
•Rejection, abandonment
•Loneliness
•Physical injury, abuse
•Not being able to control or change someone
•My inferiority, inadequacy
•Criticism
•Expressing ideas or feelings
•Getting trapped
•Expo sure, embarrassment
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*Thanks to Anonymous in New England.
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Complete each column top to bottom before proceeding to the next column.
Thus, for instance, fill in all the names of those you are resentful at
before filling in the column for the cause of each resentment. List real resentments, not imaginary or theoretical resentments. Is the resentment a problem for you, does it cause you pain?
Column 1 In dealing with resentments we set them on paper. We listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry. Column 2 We asked ourselves why we were angry.
Column 3 On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations which had been interfered with?
Column 4 Referring to our list again. Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?
Column 5 This Column is optional. List specific other defects to show your participation in the resentments.
Reading from left to right we now see the resentment (Column 1), the cause (Column 2), the part of self that had been affected (Column 3), and the exact nature of the defect within us that allowed the resentment to surface and block us off from God’s will (Columns 4 and 5).
COLUMN 1
COLUMN 2
REVIEW OF RESENTMENTS
“SELF”
COLUMN 3
COL. 4
COLUMN 5
Affects My
My
Specific
Own
Defects
Mistakes
I’m RESENTFUL at:
The Cause:
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The Cause
If you must list additional resentments do so below.
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FEARS
Do not be restricted by this list. It is just to help you get started. List your fears on the next pages
abandonment
flying
needing anyone
aging
fourth & fifth steps
not being good enough
anger
future, the
not being happy
authority figures
getting fat or thin
not being liked
being alone
God
not being perfect
being deceived
going home
people (specify who)
being found out
going out on a “whim”
police, the
being myself
having children
poverty
change
homelessness
procrastination
compliments
homosexuality
rape
confrontation
honesty
rejection
creditors
humiliation
relationships
death
hurting others
resentments, my
denial, my
I’m a fraud and others will find out
responsibility
disapproval
incarceration
risks
disease
intimacy
saying that I can’t do something
divorce
IRS, the
sex
embarrassment
letting go
sponsor, my
employment
living
success
facing myself
loneliness
unemployment
failure
losing hope
unknown, the
fear
love
violence
feelings
mediocrity
work
financial insecurity
money
Search your own experience for other fears..
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Filling out the Fourth Step Inventory form is an important part of your personal journey. After completing the form, you will have a clearer understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. This reflection can guide your next steps in personal growth and recovery.
What is the purpose of the Fourth Step Inventory form?
The Fourth Step Inventory form is designed to help individuals reflect on their character traits, both positive and negative. It encourages self-examination, allowing you to identify personal flaws and assets. This process is a crucial part of recovery, as it helps individuals understand their values and behaviors, paving the way for personal growth and change.
How should I prepare before starting the Fourth Step?
Before diving into the Fourth Step, it’s essential to read pages 63-71 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and the Fourth Step in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. This background will provide context and a deeper understanding of the inventory process. Preparation can make your reflection more meaningful and effective.
Is it necessary to write down my flaws and assets?
While the Big Book suggests that writing is optional, many people find it beneficial to document their flaws and assets. Putting thoughts on paper can clarify your feelings and make the inventory process more impactful. However, it’s important not to feel restricted; you can add any flaws or assets that resonate with you beyond the provided checklist.
What if I feel overwhelmed by my character defects?
It’s natural to feel overwhelmed when confronting personal flaws. Remember, this inventory is not about self-criticism but about honest self-reflection. Focus on being fair to yourself. Prioritize the flaws that cause the most trouble in your life and consider balancing them with your strengths. If you find yourself listing too many defects, take a step back and focus on the most significant ones.
What should I do after completing the Fourth Step Inventory?
After completing your inventory, the next step is to review your flaws. This involves reflecting on specific examples of how these flaws have manifested in your life. Discussing these with a trusted individual can also be beneficial, as it allows for support and accountability as you work through your recovery process.
How do I prioritize my flaws and assets?
To prioritize, start by identifying the 20% of your flaws that lead to 80% of your difficulties. Once you have this list, narrow it down to the top 12 flaws that you believe cause the most trouble. Additionally, ensure that you check off at least twice as many assets as flaws to maintain a balanced perspective on your character.
Can I include flaws that are not on the checklist?
Absolutely! The checklist is merely a starting point. If you recognize other flaws or strengths that are significant to your personal journey, feel free to include them. This inventory is about your unique experiences and understanding of yourself.
Are these worksheets officially recognized by Alcoholics Anonymous?
No, these worksheets are not officially produced or approved by Alcoholics Anonymous. They have been shared informally among members for many years. It’s essential to approach them as a helpful tool rather than an official guide, and to use them in a way that feels right for you.
Filling out the Fourth Step Inventory form is a crucial part of the recovery process, yet many individuals make common mistakes that can hinder their progress. One significant error is focusing solely on flaws without acknowledging strengths. The inventory is intended to provide a balanced view of oneself, including both defects and assets. Neglecting to recognize positive traits can lead to feelings of inadequacy and discourage honest self-reflection. It's essential to check at least twice as many assets as flaws to maintain a healthy perspective.
Another frequent mistake is blaming all past behavior on alcohol or drugs. While substance use may have influenced actions, the Fourth Step is about understanding who you are now. This means recognizing that some negative behaviors may persist regardless of past substance use. Acknowledging these ongoing issues is vital for personal growth and recovery. Failing to take responsibility for current behavior can stall the healing process.
Additionally, many people do not prioritize their flaws effectively. The guidance suggests focusing on the 20% of flaws that cause 80% of the trouble in life. However, individuals often check off numerous flaws without narrowing them down to the most impactful ones. This can lead to overwhelm and a sense of defeat. Prioritizing allows for targeted work on the most significant issues, making the process more manageable and productive.
Lastly, some individuals approach the inventory with a mindset of self-criticism rather than self-discovery. The form is not meant to serve as a tool for self-condemnation but rather as a means to identify areas for improvement. It is important to be fair to oneself during this process. A harsh self-assessment can lead to discouragement and may prevent individuals from fully engaging with the inventory. Embracing honesty while maintaining compassion is key to successfully completing this important step.
The Fourth Step Inventory form is an essential tool for self-reflection in the recovery process. Alongside this form, several other documents can enhance the experience and provide additional structure. Here are five commonly used forms and documents that often accompany the Fourth Step Inventory.
Utilizing these forms and documents in conjunction with the Fourth Step Inventory can create a comprehensive framework for personal growth and recovery. Each document serves a unique purpose, contributing to a holistic approach to self-improvement.
When filling out the Fourth Step Inventory form, it is crucial to approach the task thoughtfully. Below is a list of ten essential do's and don'ts to consider:
Misconceptions about the Fourth Step Inventory form can lead to confusion and hinder personal growth. Below are eight common misconceptions along with explanations to clarify them.
When filling out and using the Fourth Step Inventory form, consider these key takeaways: